What belief do you have when you come across conflict or difficulty? Is your automatic answer “a problem”? How does this phrase set you up to tackle the issue? How would changing the context affect your perception of the issue?
Lets look at making this a challenge instead of a problem. We have all probably had to deal with choosing what to make for a dinner party. What are the first things that pop in your head? Do you think of what your guests may not want to eat? What if they don’t like what I make? What if they have allergies I don’t know about? The list can go on.
Or, do you think of the fantastic recipes you’ve been wanting to finally make? You have a staple recipe you know will please even the fussiest person, and you are secretly wanting to find someone who doesn’t! You’re not afraid to call them up to check if there are any allergies or foods they won’t eat because of their culture.
Doesn’t the second scenario sound more fun and entertaining? Someone once told me that when they had to do work involving bookkeeping, they thought of it as a game of “find the needle in the haystack”. The activity was turned into a game! Find the missing number to balance the sheet. Hearing the activity of bookkeeping in a different context changed the way I would do that activity from then on! It changed my frame of mind.
Can we use this light-hearted example in a more serious case? Of course! What can change your frame of mind to have potentials and possibilities instead of problems?